Thursday, 26 May 2011
What has marriage got to do with it?
Many don't take marriage as a institution between a man and a woman that's for a lifetime any more. Times have changed, and unfortunately priorities have changed for the worst it seems, we live in times that people live by the wrong values, and those seen as role models to many, especially to the youths don't help matters as far as marriage is concerned. We have our youths looking up to men who have been on their 4th or 5th marriage as role models. They are allowed to be role models to our youths in other areas but they shouldn't be models as far as marriage is concerned! Who should be the real stars and the real celebrities of this world? We are looking to the wrong people, men and women who can't even keep their homes together.
Many are getting it wrong maritally because the author of marriage is been left out of their marriages, this is unfortunate. You can't understand a 'product' better than the person who created it. When the creator has been left out of a marriage things will most likely go wrong, when the Lord is not given his place in marriage we can't tell how that marriage will turn out, the future of such a union is not certain.
Many people get married for all the wrong reasons in these times. There are many who choose their spouse due to materialism and for financial security, some don't have a mind of their own, they are like stooges who have been tele-guided by parents and relatives to marry a particular person, some others don't get to know their partner long enough before getting married while many others 'scheme' their way into wrong 'hands' due to wrong values, lack of foresight and selfishness.
Genuine love should be the major reason people marry but many don't know what real love is. Love is not sentimentalism, emotionalism, physical attraction infatuation or lust. Love is a mystery that is rooted in a choice, true love has to be tested not just accepted at face value. Love is a fruit and it takes some time for fruits to develop.
A marriage where there is genuine love will wither storms successfully and 'shine'.
A married couple can be likened to the sun and the moon 'relationship'. The sun is the strong light of the day while the moon is the less powerful light of the night. Men rule the day, they work, they provide and exercise leadership but the 'time' of the moon comes, its the night time, she is the woman who determines what goes on in the bedroom. The night time also symbolises darkness, difficulty, storms or hardship. The measure of a woman is known during the difficulties of her marriage and challenges her husband is going through. Will she 'shine' like the moon she is supposed to be during this period or will she give up on her 'body'.
Many marriages are failing today because many couples don't understand the concept of ONENESS. Married people are one 'body' not separate entities.
The moon is a luminous body which reflects the light of the sun, the ability of the moon to glow is received from the sun, a woman well loved by her spouse will 'glow'.