Wednesday, 19 October 2016

Parenting, a great responsibility.

As I woke up in the early hours of this morning I felt a sudden flow of inspiration.
So I got off my bed, reached for my laptop and headed to the sitting room to type out these words before I lose them.
Besides it's been a while I have put up an article on this blog, I have been away for so long from the readers who come to this blog to read the articles on it.
I am so sorry.

As a parent I ponder from time to time about the type of parent I am or that I am becoming.
I feel this is a necessary thing to do for we are either getting better or worse in life, so self appraisals are necessary for every one.
Parenting has more to it than we see or understand from an outward perspective.

A lovely family is easily admired, seeing parents who dote on their children and have great relationships with them is a wonderful thing but what we do not see is the sacrifice that has gone into creating the relationship between those parents and children.
I use the word sacrifice because there is a lot parents do and give up to make things work between them and their children. To succeed at anything in a significant way you will have to sacrifice and parenting is no exception.
It is a huge responsibility!

Anything we don't invest our time in, give attention to, regard or respect will eventually move away from us. Whether it's friends, our pets, our spouses, our children, even God.
Relationships can break down!
It takes wisdom to create the right kind of relationship with people, that includes our children.
I find some parents assume their children will naturally or automatically have cordial relationships with them because they are the parent but it doesn't always work that way.
The getting along of parents and children has to be cultivated and nurtured just like any other relationship.

Perhaps it's the hardwork and sacrifice good parents put into raising their children that makes them expect so much from them sometimes.This is where finding the balance comes in.

We should hope for and expect good things from our children but we might be disappointed to expect too much from them.
They are human after all.
At times, parents raise the bar so high for their children without setting a standard for themselves.
To a large degree our children are a reflection of ourselves.
Though they are different from us and have their own uniqueness, they are a reflection of the values we taught and showed them, the lifestyle they see us live, they words we communicated to them, the home we created for them, and the love we showed them.
They reflect us in many respects.

We shouldn't expect from them what we have not taught them.
A father who is disappointed his son is not a financial success should ask himself if he ever taught his son how to make money.
Which viable businesses did you expose your daughters to?
Which lessons did you share with your son about legitimate business, investing and the world we live in?
Where are our children meant to learn these things from?
Some over protective parents have even hindered their children from going forward by keeping them away from jobs, business attempts and following their ideas all because they don't want their children to get hurt.
Some despiseful parents  break the confidence and self esteem of their children without knowing, only to turn around and accuse the children of not making the most of their lives or opportunities.
Truly, parenting is a balancing act.

Well done to the parents who pay school fees and have made an effort to get their children good education.

However our educational system doesn't teach  young ladies or men what to expect outside the four walls of a school or classroom.
We are taught to add, subtract, multiply, divide, how to write and perhaps speak good English.
We are 'processed' through our schools and institutions of higher learning to follow a certain pattern, be a certain way, think in certain ways and work for someone or some organization for the rest of our lives.

It is the gifted few who have a natural and perhaps innate flair for entrepreneurship and business who break out of the box or convert what they have learn't into some form of enterprise.
Many young people leave school to face the dagger of reality in a tough and ruthless world without having proper mentorship from the parents who unfortunately may not know better themselves.
Some children pass through the educational system abused, scarred, bullied and trampled upon without having the kind of parents they can confide in.

A father who thinks his son is not romantic or doesn't know how to relate with his wife or the opposite sex should ask himself if he ever had any 'man talk' with his son while his son was growing up. More importantly, how was he treating his sons mother and how does that father treat women himself?
It's vice versa with mothers and daughters, fathers and daughters and mothers and sons.
Parenting is no joke!
It requires a combination of wisdom, understanding, knowledge, foresight and in my opinion exposure.
You can't teach your child what you are not exposed to. You can't share what you don't know, and you can't give what you don't have.

Very importantly we owe it to our children to be whole.
If it is not well with us it rubs off on our children in some form or the other.
We should fix ourselves, even if it is for the sake of our children, the generation after us.
If we are not whole, maybe we shouldn't expect it from our children?
Fortunately our wellness and wholeness is part of what God takes care of. Thank you Jesus!

Tuesday, 7 June 2016

What's Marriage Got To Do With It?

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It is a book that's relevant to all people from different walks of life irrespective of their personal life or relationship situation.
Whether you are happily married, unhappy in marriage, single, single and content, single and searching, engaged, divorced, considering divorce or considering getting back with your spouse, there is a word for you in this book.

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It's a work that will come in handy as a useful guide for marriage counselors.
Through this work you can contact the mind of God concerning marriage when used along side your Bible.

It's a useful tool for those who want to self educate themselves on the topic of marriage without spending a fortune on counselors.
Each page of this work is loaded with insights and inspiration.
It promises to be a gift that keeps on giving.

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Wednesday, 16 March 2016

Sunday, 31 January 2016


John 10:10, Isaiah 60:5,6,7
 2 Corinthians 4:4

One of the great lies of Satan to the world, especially to followers of God is to make us believe that our quality of life here on earth doesn't matter, that all God cares about  is where we go after leaving this earth. John 8:44
When we begin to study the scriptures we'll discover that God is a God who cares, He cares about you making it when Jesus comes back for His people,He also cares about your quality of life here on earth. 1 Peter 5:7
Not only does He care about your situation right now, He has gone a step further to make arrangements for you to have His best. 2 Peter 1:3

The abundant life is not refering to only material things but a quality of life,
Eternal life comes withan abundance of good health, an abundance of God's nature, an abundance of peace, an abundance of strength, an abundance of joy.
So eternal life is a great gift God packaged together for His children. Romans 6:23

So why doesn't the abundance God packaged for His people always show in their lives?
1) Our souls may not have grasped or understood what eternal life offers us. Romans 12:2
2) Wrong mental programing over the years. Proverbs 4:23
3) Lack of belief: we can be hindered from God's blessings and miracles because of unbelief and doubt. Mark 6:5,6
4) Satanic activity that's hindering what is ours. 1Thessalonians 2:18 (Resisting Satan is the answer. James 4:7)

Prayer Points:
1) Let everything that comes with eternal life appear in my life. John 3:16
2) O Lord,Help me to believe the right things.John 11:25
3) Dear God, Destroy every Satanic activity against me. Matthew 8:23-27
4) Father, give me the grace to always resist Satan. James 4:7
5) O God, remove every mental blockage to my breakthrough. Luke 6:45
6) Lord Jesus, I cast my cares upon the you. 1 Peter 5:7
7) Father, Give me a record breaking breaktrough. Luke 5:4-7
8) Lord, multiply the result of my efforts. Matthew 14:13-21

Olutosin Ogunkolade, a Teacher-Pastor in The Light Of Jesus Christ Assembly shared this message.

Tuesday, 19 January 2016


It's been a while I put up a thorough written article like I used to do on this blog, The Dreamer's Blog.
I miss doing so,and I appreciate those who check on my blog from time to time.
I've been really busy with work, family and ministry.
The church blog,as you can see from the information on the picture above ( has been busy and I have been working more on that blog a lot.

I'm looking to publishing a new book this year. I will create time for it, as busy as I can be

Happy New Year to you.
2016 is the Year Of Rising Stars.
May your star rise and shine this year
God bless you!

In His Highest Grace,
Olutosin Ogunkolade

Thursday, 14 January 2016

Overcoming Fear Through Prayer

Psalm 23:4
2 Timothy 1:7

Fear is a state that is familiar to human beings.
Fear crept into the life of humanity after and because of the first sin that took place through Adam and Eve. Genesis 3:18
Fear is not from God, so it's a stranger.

As common as fear has become to the human race, we must not make the mistake of accepting it as natural.
Fear was never part of God's package for human beings, it became part of our lives as a result of the wrong choice of Adam and Eve to disobey God.
Fear is a stranger that has stayed with all of us for to long and should leave.
Fear should be seen as a stranger and foreigner to us all, because "in the beginning it was not so" Psalm 18:45

Fear is a foreigner that should leave your life because of God's hand and power upon your life.
Fear departs when God's hand or presence is upon you.
Prayer is what brings the hand of God upon a person.
1 Kings 18:42-46
Acts 4:27-29
Fear is a spirit

When we pray well, the hand of God comes upon us and negative spirits like fear depart.
Fear is a spirit, the Bible recognizes it as a spirit. 2 Timothy 1:7

Characteristics of fear:
1) Limits and hinders people.
2) It is a kind of spiritual prison.
3) It blocks potential and abilities.
4) It brings physical and spiritual backwardness.

How to overcome fear:
1) Be saved. Romans 8:15
2) Build your self esteem and confidence through God's Word. 1 Peter 2:2
3) Recognize fear as a spirit and attack it by prayer. Ephesians 6:12

Prayer Points:
1) Give me the consciousness of Your presence with me. Psalm 23:4
2) Teach me to use my rod and staff against the spirit of fear. Psalm 23:4
3) Let me know you as my light, salvation and stronghold. Psalm 27:1
4) By your presence, let me overcome the fear of man. Psalm 118:6
5) Give me strength and courage. Deuteronomy 31:6
6) Let your trust replace fear in my life. Psalm 56:3,4
7) Take a hold of man hand and help me. Isaiah 41:13
8) Let me be perfected by your love O'God. 1 John 4:18

Olutosin Ogunkolade, a Teacher-Pastor shared this message.